Even if you’ve said yes to something before or felt OK with stuff, you can still change your mind and say no. It can be confusing if someone is pressuring you.Remember, it’s wrong for anyone to:
- make you feel bad for saying no and to keep asking you
- pressure you into feeling like you owe them something
- bully you or call you names because they don’t agree with your decision
- threaten to tell other people or share stuff online
- offer you something in exchange for sex
- force you into anything or hurt you.
It's important to think about what feels right for you. And remember - always #ListenToYourSelfie.
What to do if you feel unsafe
Ending a relationship can be really difficult, and there are some things could put extra pressure on you. These could include things like grooming, blackmail or emotional pressure. If your boyfriend or girlfriend makes you feel scared in your relationship, it's important to get support. Try talking to an adult you trust or to a Childline counsellor. Having a safety plan can also help keep you safe. Read the safety plan instructions below and make sure you keep your plan in a safe place where your partner won’t see it.
Tips for ending a bad relationship
- Plan what you want to say
Focus on your feelings but remember to clearly say that you want to end things.
- Pick a neutral place
Meet in neutral place with other people around. This is important for staying safe.
- Plan how you'll get home
Plan how you'll get home safely before you meet up. It's also a good idea to let a friend or family member know where you're going.
- Talk to people you trust
Getting support from your family, friends and people you trust can really help you to feel better.
- Distract yourself
Spend some time doing things that make you feel good about yourself. Find out what you like, what you're good at or try joining a club.
- Look after yourself
Taking care of yourself can include things like trying not to go out too much or drink too much. You may be tempted to contact your ex or feel vulnerable.
- Remember it's not your fault
If they contact you again, remember this isn't fair and remember they should respect your decision. If they pressure or threaten you, talk to an adult you trust.